Pride the
deadly sin
Pride erects a little kingdom of its own and acts as a sovereign in it- William Hazlit
“I’m proud
of my beauty. I’m proud of my punctuality, discipline…”
These are
few things people often get swelled up with pride. But what exactly is pride? Does
it serve us or trap us? Perhaps there is a good reason why pride is considered one of the seven deadly sins.
Definition of
pride: Pride derives from the French word “prud,” which is a late
Old English word variously translated as “excellent, splendid, arrogant
and haughty.
There is absolutely no
wrong in getting satisfied if we achieve something may it be any field, in
academic life, social life or love life. But if we allow these things to define
who we are, we set ourselves up for misery. We can only value ourselves by
validating, affirming, and valuing ourselves for what we are. Achievements are
ephemeral and can often become a trap. If we want to achieve better to feel
better then we only result in becoming a self-addict to external sources of
gratification.
But, dignity will always
stay with us whether we succeed or fail. If an attempt to communicate
our feelings to our partner falls flat, we might feel sad, but we can feel good
knowing we did our best. We can experience the dignity of having reached out to
connect or to repair an injury to the relationship. We can experience the
dignity of living with integrity, regardless of the outcome. Pride is
often driven by poor self-worth and shame. We feel so badly about ourselves
that we compensate by feeling superior. We look for others’ flaws as a way to
conceal our own. We relish criticizing others as a defense against
recognizing our own shortcomings.
This shame-driven
pride makes us too uncomfortable to say, “I’m sorry, I was wrong, I made a
mistake.” When pride rules, we believe we’re always right. This makes it
difficult to sustain intimate relationships; nobody likes being with a
know-it-all.
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Pride erects a little kingdom of its own and acts as a sovereign in it- William Hazlit |
“I’m proud
of my beauty. I’m proud of my punctuality, discipline…”
These are
few things people often get swelled up with pride. But what exactly is pride? Does
it serve us or trap us? Perhaps there is a good reason why pride is considered one of the seven deadly sins.
 |
Definition of
pride: Pride derives from the French word “prud,” which is a late
Old English word variously translated as “excellent, splendid, arrogant
and haughty.
There is absolutely no
wrong in getting satisfied if we achieve something may it be any field, in
academic life, social life or love life. But if we allow these things to define
who we are, we set ourselves up for misery. We can only value ourselves by
validating, affirming, and valuing ourselves for what we are. Achievements are
ephemeral and can often become a trap. If we want to achieve better to feel
better then we only result in becoming a self-addict to external sources of
gratification.
But, dignity will always
stay with us whether we succeed or fail. If an attempt to communicate
our feelings to our partner falls flat, we might feel sad, but we can feel good
knowing we did our best. We can experience the dignity of having reached out to
connect or to repair an injury to the relationship. We can experience the
dignity of living with integrity, regardless of the outcome. Pride is
often driven by poor self-worth and shame. We feel so badly about ourselves
that we compensate by feeling superior. We look for others’ flaws as a way to
conceal our own. We relish criticizing others as a defense against
recognizing our own shortcomings.
This shame-driven
pride makes us too uncomfortable to say, “I’m sorry, I was wrong, I made a
mistake.” When pride rules, we believe we’re always right. This makes it
difficult to sustain intimate relationships; nobody likes being with a
know-it-all.
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Facebook page :
Instagram :
Twitter :
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